Posts by Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT
5 Tips to Trusting Your Intuition
“You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself.” Alan Alda Over the years, clients have come into session asking me, what is the difference between my intuition and fear? I can hear and feel a…
Read MoreThe Art of Surrender
Surrender is not defeat. Surrender is not giving up. Surrender is ‘allowing’ in the moment. Each day, and more specifically each moment, we have an opportunity to practice the art of surrendering. Whether we are late for an appointment, waiting for a train, or feeling overwhelmed by life, we have a choice. We hit a…
Read MoreMotherhood; you know you are a mother when…
As I journeyed into motherhood, I felt quite overwhelmed. The day I became pregnant and the moment I gave birth, I was changed forever. Even though I was so much the same, something in me was so different. My new journey had just begun. As I stood in line at the coffee shop one morning,…
Read MoreHow Psychotherapy Can Help
Snowdrops – Louise Gluck Do you know what I was, how I lived? You know what despair is; then winter should have meaning for you. I did not expect to survive earth suppressing me. I didn’t expect to waken again, to feel in damp earth my body able to respond again, remembering after so long…
Read MoreAccepting Loss
This was a writing below I found saved on my computer when I recently lost a family member I was close with. I was searching my files for the topics of accepting loss. Loss is so different for everyone and how we move through it and forward is unique to each of us. I hope…
Read MorePostpartum Depression; A New York Times Article
Postpartum depression affects so many new mothers, yet so many new moms feel so much shame in finding support and help. Below is an article and video on postpartum depression from the New York Times. Can we eliminate the shame and normalize all the feelings surrounding birth? http://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/16/health/thinking-of-ways-to-harm-her.html
Read MoreUnleashing Anxiety’s Grip; 5 tips to soothe anxiety
“You are the sky. Everything else – it’s just the weather.” ― Pema Chödrön When we find ourselves consumed by anxiety, it’s as if a tornado has arrived and starts to pull everything into it’s path of destruction. The one thing we were anxious about turns into everything we are anxious about. Anxiety is one…
Read MoreCall for Dads; Honoring Dads on Father’s Day
The greatest thing a FATHER can do to his children, is to love their mother. – Anjaneth Garcia Untalan This Sunday we celebrate Father’s Day. Because we have a little one at home, this year we celebrate my husband as a father. It is however during these holidays, I also think of the sons and…
Read MoreThe Courage To Wait – Pema Chodron quote on peace
“When you’re like a keg of dynamite just about to go off, patience means just slowing down at that point—just pausing—instead of immediately acting on your usual, habitual response. You refrain from acting, you stop talking to yourself, and then you connect with the soft spot. But at the same time you are completely and…
Read MoreFinding the BEST Therapist for you
Finding a good therapist, especially in a place like NYC that has a therapist on every corner, can be a daunting task. Over the years, I have heard some strange stories about how therapists behaved or responded to clients. It can be an overwhelming process to start, but with a good fit, being in therapy…
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