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A Traumatic Homecoming – Interview With A New Mother

I am so often stuck by the courage and bravery of first time mothers. Becoming a mother is a leap of faith and an absolute shift in identity. We have no idea how we will feel, how our baby will be, and what it’s all going to be like. Our relationship with our friends change, our partners, but most importantly, I believe after we become a mother, we are changed…

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Stop Forking Yourself. 10 Tips to Mindful Eating

I think it’s safe to say we have all been guilty of once or twice filling up on food to cover up our feelings. Whether you find yourself feeling sad, anxious, or even stressed, we can so often turn to food to help us feel better. This leads to worse feeling thoughts about ourselves. It’s a cycle that can also lead to possible weight gain and more feelings of unhappiness.…

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The Important Thing About Yelling – a beautiful article written by Rachel Macy Stafford

As exhausted parents, we try so hard to keep our cool and breathe. There are times when all our needs, including our children, our partners, our pets, all come crashing down at once and we are left feeling scattered, perhaps anxious, stressed, and even angry. I love this post because at the end of it all, tomorrow is a new day. We get to try to be better. We get…

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Surrendering To Resistance

Surrendering is not defeat. Surrendering is not giving up. Surrendering is ‘allowing’ in the moment. When we let go of struggle, and allow ourselves to just be where we are, we find more peace and more balance in ourselves and our lives. Each day, and more specifically each moment, we have an opportunity to practice the art of surrendering. Whether we are late for an appointment, waiting for a train,…

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How Psychotherapy Can Help

If you live in New York City, like I do, you know that most people speak openly about seeing their therapist. The stigma of shame is lifted when you live in a place that accepts psychotherapy as an acceptable form of asking for help. In New York, there are therapists on most corners. When we enter therapy, it does not mean that we are crazy or can’t function on our…

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What is MamaYoga? An interview with Kate Loewengart

I had kept meaning to check out Kate Loewengart’s class at Rivertown Mamas for mom and baby. Since I have had my son, I find scheduling to be a bit challenging. One day, however, the stars aligned and I was able to attend. Kate offers a wonderful selection of different classes, whether you are pregnant or have a newborn, or even an active toddler. The class I was able to…

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To Bless the Space Between Us – Poetry

John O’Donohue To Bless the Space Between Us May this be a morning of innocent beginning, When the gift within you slips clear Of the sticky web of the personal With its hurt and its hauntings, And fixed fortress corners, A morning when you become a pure vessel For what wants to ascend from silence, May your imagination know The grace of perfect danger, To reach beyond imitation, And the…

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Anxiety; 5 Tips to Staying Calm

Anxiety. Even the name can make some people anxious. It can hit us like a ton of bricks or slowly creep in. Either way, struggling with anxiety can be exhausting and well anxiety producing. Here are some tips to help you through the anxiety. I have written about anxiety before and tips to help soothe it but here are some more. 1. Anxiety comes in waves. We may notice feeling…

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Parenting Article: When Multiple Children Have Big Feelings

This article was written on the Hand in Hand Parenting website and I thought one worth sharing. Just having one child, it’s sometimes hard to know how to navigate feelings, big or small. Here is a really good article on how to handle multiple children’s feelings. http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/connecting-chaos-multiple-children-big-feelings/ Connecting Through Chaos: what to do when siblings have big feelings at once What parent hasn’t wished she could clone herself into an…

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A Letter to a New Mom

“There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.” —Jill Churchill I share this personal piece of writing in hopes that it speaks to others who are having a hard time having a new baby at home. In hopes that it reminds a new mom out there that this time of sleep deprivation and hard feelings change and shift. Having a new…

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New Year, New You! – 3 Ways to Find Your Authentic Voice in 2019

To find your authentic voice, be an explorer. How so? Have you ever been to a new city and felt an undeniable vibe? Like the atmosphere was alive, breathing a certain feeling into your lungs. Some cities that come to mind are New Orleans, Chicago, New York, Philadelphia, Nashville, San Francisco, etc. Unmentioned, of course, the hundreds of quaint little towns scattered across the map. What do they all have…

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How Overthinking a New Relationship Can Undermine Your Connection

The start of a fresh romance has its own unique learning curve. If you’re like most people, you may be tempted to analyze every little move. Yet, overthinking a new relationship can actually damage the authentic connection between you. Despite the intense and immediate connection that romance novels depict, usually that initial connection is fairly sensitive. In other words, it requires a bit of nurturing. Think of your new emotional…

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5 Easy Ways to Build Your Self-Confidence—Starting Now

Many things in life can impact your self-confidence. Think back to events in your childhood. Perhaps your parents divorced, you relocated to a new neighborhood or school, or you struggled with a physical illness or disability. In adulthood, you may have experienced a difficult relationship, dealt with a toxic work environment, or trudged through financial losses. Life has a way of twisting and turning in unexpected ways. Often, these experiences…

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Why Self-Care Is More Than a Day at the Spa

Despite the term “self-care” taking on a rather fluffy meaning nowadays, it’s far more empowering than most people believe. And self-care is more than a day at the spa. Yes, daily self-care goes far beyond sweating out stress in a sauna or taking a mud bath. Somewhere along the lines, self-care has gotten a luxurious connotation assigned to it. As if taking care of yourself was optional. It’s vital to…

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Attention, Stressed-Out People Pleasers—Read This and Relax!

As a people pleaser, you may deal with anxiety and stress by the truckloads. All the volunteering is likely burning you out. You probably don’t feel incredibly valued either. Perhaps you already know that people pleasing is rooted in low self-confidence. Essentially, as a people pleaser, you draw your self-worth from others. For this reason, the habit of people pleasing ends up hurting you big time. And stopping this habit…

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Are You Suffering from High-Functioning Anxiety? – 5 Tell-Tale Signs

Many people identify with the long list of common anxiety symptoms. From the racing thoughts to that notorious feeling of being on-edge, modern society has normalized these symptoms. But perhaps you’re not exactly the poster child for anxiety because you appear to have your life together. You’re organized, pay attention to detail, and can focus on several projects at once. Plus, you seem to have eight sets of arms with…

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Spring Renewal: 6 Ways to Prepare Yourself for Summer

No matter which part of the country you’re from, there’s a good chance that winter is old news to you. Thankfully, the change of seasons is well on the way and you, like most people, are likely ready for a spring renewal. Of course, it can be tough to transition smoothly from season to season. After all, the way you navigate life can differ vastly from one season to the…

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The Long, Dark Road of Depression – Will It Last Forever?

Have you been struggling with depression but can’t get anywhere? Are you worried that your depression will last forever with no hope in sight? For sufferers, the road of depression can certainly seem long and dark, without end. However, it is also important to know that there is hope at the end of the tunnel. First, take into consideration a few facts about depression. Same Depression, Different Experiences According to…

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After Birth: The Challenges of Navigating Motherhood

Navigating motherhood is sort of like flying an airplane through a thick and foggy barrage of clouds. Most people really don’t know which direction is up or down, right or left. After giving birth to a precious little baby may seem like an obvious time to be beaming as a parent. And, you probably are beaming. The truth, though, remains that it has proven to be one of the most…

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Mindfulness: 10 Reasons Why It’s Great for Mind and Body

If there was a simple way to improve your mind and body, would you do it? The good news is that there is a simple way! — It’s called mindfulness. Although it has taken the internet by storm, the practice of mindfulness has been around for centuries. What it all boils down to is living deliberately by being acutely aware of yourself and your environment. It seems too simple to…

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