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Parenting Article: When Multiple Children Have Big Feelings

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

This article was written on the Hand in Hand Parenting website and I thought one worth sharing. Just having one child, it’s sometimes hard to know how to navigate feelings, big or small. Here is a really good article on how to handle multiple children’s feelings. http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/connecting-chaos-multiple-children-big-feelings/ Connecting Through Chaos: what to do when siblings have big feelings at once What parent hasn’t wished she could clone herself into an…

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A Letter to a New Mom

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

“There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.” —Jill Churchill I share this personal piece of writing in hopes that it speaks to others who are having a hard time having a new baby at home. In hopes that it reminds a new mom out there that this time of sleep deprivation and hard feelings change and shift. Having a new…

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5 Tips to Trusting Your Intuition

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

“You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself.” Alan Alda Over the years, clients have come into session asking me, what is the difference between my intuition and fear? I can hear and feel a gut feeling, but I am not sure if it’s truly my intuition. How do I…

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The Art of Surrender

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

Surrender is not defeat. Surrender is not giving up. Surrender is ‘allowing’ in the moment. Each day, and more specifically each moment, we have an opportunity to practice the art of surrendering. Whether we are late for an appointment, waiting for a train, or feeling overwhelmed by life, we have a choice. We hit a fork in the road. We can either choose to follow that impulse of frustration, aggravation,…

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Motherhood; you know you are a mother when…

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

As I journeyed into motherhood, I felt quite overwhelmed. The day I became pregnant and the moment I gave birth, I was changed forever. Even though I was so much the same, something in me was so different. My new journey had just begun. As I stood in line at the coffee shop one morning, deeply sleep deprived, I reached for my purse and a mum mum fell out. I…

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How Psychotherapy Can Help

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

Snowdrops – Louise Gluck Do you know what I was, how I lived? You know what despair is; then winter should have meaning for you. I did not expect to survive earth suppressing me. I didn’t expect to waken again, to feel in damp earth my body able to respond again, remembering after so long how to open again in the cold light of earliest spring- afraid, yes, but among…

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grief, Accepting Loss

Accepting Loss

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

This was a writing below I found saved on my computer when I recently lost a family member I was close with. I was searching my files for the topics of accepting loss. Loss is so different for everyone and how we move through it and forward is unique to each of us. I hope the words written below speak to you. If anyone knows who it is, please let…

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Postpartum Depression; A New York Times Article

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

Postpartum depression affects so many new mothers, yet so many new moms feel so much shame in finding support and help. Below is an article and video on postpartum depression from the New York Times. Can we eliminate the shame and normalize all the feelings surrounding birth? http://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/16/health/thinking-of-ways-to-harm-her.html

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Unleashing Anxiety’s Grip; 5 tips to soothe anxiety

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

“You are the sky. Everything else – it’s just the weather.” ― Pema Chödrön When we find ourselves consumed by anxiety, it’s as if a tornado has arrived and starts to pull everything into it’s path of destruction. The one thing we were anxious about turns into everything we are anxious about. Anxiety is one of those states of mind that feels so uncomfortable and critical to either push down…

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Call for Dads; Honoring Dads on Father’s Day

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

The greatest thing a FATHER can do to his children, is to love their mother. – Anjaneth Garcia Untalan This Sunday we celebrate Father’s Day. Because we have a little one at home, this year we celebrate my husband as a father. It is however during these holidays, I also think of the sons and daughters that have lost their fathers or who never knew them. So many articles and…

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Why creating a routine can be helpful during coronavirus

The coronavirus outbreak is a global issue that is causing a lot of concerns for humans everywhere in the world. It is disrupting our lives, our economy, our finances, our social and family circles, as well as our physical and mental health. Our daily habits have changed, our life looks different, and everything happened so quickly, which is anxiety provoking. You might be working from home at this point, or…

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How vulnerability can help you enhance your relationship.

Being vulnerable in a romantic relationship. Throughout my experience working in France and now in the United States, I have observed partners going from regularly fighting and talking about breaking up to being close to one another and having a strong and secure attachment bond. So, what has helped them go from a stage of defensiveness and verbal attacks to a more peaceful lifestyle? I have noticed that couples that…

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New Year, New You! – 3 Ways to Find Your Authentic Voice in 2019

To find your authentic voice, be an explorer. How so? Have you ever been to a new city and felt an undeniable vibe? Like the atmosphere was alive, breathing a certain feeling into your lungs. Some cities that come to mind are New Orleans, Chicago, New York, Philadelphia, Nashville, San Francisco, etc. Unmentioned, of course, the hundreds of quaint little towns scattered across the map. What do they all have…

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How Overthinking a New Relationship Can Undermine Your Connection

The start of a fresh romance has its own unique learning curve. If you’re like most people, you may be tempted to analyze every little move. Yet, overthinking a new relationship can actually damage the authentic connection between you. Despite the intense and immediate connection that romance novels depict, usually that initial connection is fairly sensitive. In other words, it requires a bit of nurturing. Think of your new emotional…

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5 Easy Ways to Build Your Self-Confidence—Starting Now

Many things in life can impact your self-confidence. Think back to events in your childhood. Perhaps your parents divorced, you relocated to a new neighborhood or school, or you struggled with a physical illness or disability. In adulthood, you may have experienced a difficult relationship, dealt with a toxic work environment, or trudged through financial losses. Life has a way of twisting and turning in unexpected ways. Often, these experiences…

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Why Self-Care Is More Than a Day at the Spa

Despite the term “self-care” taking on a rather fluffy meaning nowadays, it’s far more empowering than most people believe. And self-care is more than a day at the spa. Yes, daily self-care goes far beyond sweating out stress in a sauna or taking a mud bath. Somewhere along the lines, self-care has gotten a luxurious connotation assigned to it. As if taking care of yourself was optional. It’s vital to…

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Attention, Stressed-Out People Pleasers—Read This and Relax!

As a people pleaser, you may deal with anxiety and stress by the truckloads. All the volunteering is likely burning you out. You probably don’t feel incredibly valued either. Perhaps you already know that people pleasing is rooted in low self-confidence. Essentially, as a people pleaser, you draw your self-worth from others. For this reason, the habit of people pleasing ends up hurting you big time. And stopping this habit…

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Are You Suffering from High-Functioning Anxiety? – 5 Tell-Tale Signs

Many people identify with the long list of common anxiety symptoms. From the racing thoughts to that notorious feeling of being on-edge, modern society has normalized these symptoms. But perhaps you’re not exactly the poster child for anxiety because you appear to have your life together. You’re organized, pay attention to detail, and can focus on several projects at once. Plus, you seem to have eight sets of arms with…

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Spring Renewal: 6 Ways to Prepare Yourself for Summer

No matter which part of the country you’re from, there’s a good chance that winter is old news to you. Thankfully, the change of seasons is well on the way and you, like most people, are likely ready for a spring renewal. Of course, it can be tough to transition smoothly from season to season. After all, the way you navigate life can differ vastly from one season to the…

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The Long, Dark Road of Depression – Will It Last Forever?

Have you been struggling with depression but can’t get anywhere? Are you worried that your depression will last forever with no hope in sight? For sufferers, the road of depression can certainly seem long and dark, without end. However, it is also important to know that there is hope at the end of the tunnel. First, take into consideration a few facts about depression. Same Depression, Different Experiences According to…

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