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The Courage To Wait – Pema Chodron quote on peace

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

“When you’re like a keg of dynamite just about to go off, patience means just slowing down at that point—just pausing—instead of immediately acting on your usual, habitual response. You refrain from acting, you stop talking to yourself, and then you connect with the soft spot. But at the same time you are completely and totally honest with yourself about what you are feeling. You’re not suppressing anything; patience has…

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Finding the BEST Therapist for you

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

Finding a good therapist, especially in a place like NYC that has a therapist on every corner, can be a daunting task. Over the years, I have heard some strange stories about how therapists behaved or responded to clients. It can be an overwhelming process to start, but with a good fit, being in therapy can change your life. There are so many different types of therapists out there. If…

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Mother and Daughter Poems

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

Mother and Daughter Storm We walked gingerly tonight around the edges of our storm. The water rippled and raged almost tidal at times but we stayed steady on the rocks of our rendezvous with old pain. And then at last we breached as if we were killer whales high above the sea and then we crashed through the glistening surfaces deeper deeper into our hearts peace where the storm finally…

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Red Tent and a Gathering of Women

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

“The painful things seemed like knots on a beautiful necklace, necessary for keeping the beads in place.” ― Anita Diamant, The Red Tent I attended my first Red Tent women’s gathering this last weekend. The purpose was to gather women who had gone through a challenging birth experience and wanted to share her story. I arrived open and curious. It is powerful when a group of conscious women come together.…

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Birth Story Listening. Finding Peace Beyond Birth Trauma

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

“Birth stories are the single most influential factor in childbirth preparation and postpartum recovery; yet, so few really know how to listen to or learn from them. Birth stories are shared casually (anywhere, anytime, with anyone) without regard for the emotional impact on those who tell them or those who hear them. Changing birth stories changes the future, for mothers and our culture.” Pam England, Birthing From Within Before I…

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Rainer Maria Rilke Poem – Letters to a Young Poet

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke “Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart. Love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a foreign language. The point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps someday you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”

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Toddler Play Group at Rivertown Mamas, Dobbs Ferry, NY! Wednesdays from 3-4:30pm! THE GROUP IS ON A BREAK CURRENTLY FOR THE SUMMER!

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

Toddler Playtime – Please note the group is currently on a break for the summer! Lead by Melissa Divaris Thompson Join us for a casual toddler playgroup for one and two year olds. This informal, no RSVP required, no commitment gathering occurs on Wednesday afternoons from 3 to 4:30. We spread out a big blanket and some toys for the kids to play with while local parents get to know…

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After Baby: Post Partum Doula Work. Interview with Nicole Wagner

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

When I gave birth to my little one, not only did I have no idea what I was doing (I had yet to change a diaper), I was also recovering from massive surgery. My natural birth plan went south and I ended up with a C Section. Because we don’t have family close by, I felt I needed more support when my baby arrived. I had heard of a post…

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Love After Love – a poem

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

Love After Love The time will come when, with elation, you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror, and each will smile at the other’s welcome and say, sit here. Eat. You will love again the stranger who was your self. Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart to itself, to the stranger who has loved you all your life, whom you have ignored…

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5 tips to a happier day by new york psychotherapist Melissa Divaris Thompson

5 Tips To A Happier Day

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

Whether you are struggling with not enough sleep, too many things on your to do list, or anxiety that won’t leave you, starting your day off right is important. Focus on these steps to set your day in a happier direction. Here are 5 Tips To A Happier Day: 1. Before your feet hit the floor, before you get out of bed, set your intention for the day. It’s so easy…

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Why creating a routine can be helpful during coronavirus

The coronavirus outbreak is a global issue that is causing a lot of concerns for humans everywhere in the world. It is disrupting our lives, our economy, our finances, our social and family circles, as well as our physical and mental health. Our daily habits have changed, our life looks different, and everything happened so quickly, which is anxiety provoking. You might be working from home at this point, or…

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How vulnerability can help you enhance your relationship.

Being vulnerable in a romantic relationship. Throughout my experience working in France and now in the United States, I have observed partners going from regularly fighting and talking about breaking up to being close to one another and having a strong and secure attachment bond. So, what has helped them go from a stage of defensiveness and verbal attacks to a more peaceful lifestyle? I have noticed that couples that…

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New Year, New You! – 3 Ways to Find Your Authentic Voice in 2019

To find your authentic voice, be an explorer. How so? Have you ever been to a new city and felt an undeniable vibe? Like the atmosphere was alive, breathing a certain feeling into your lungs. Some cities that come to mind are New Orleans, Chicago, New York, Philadelphia, Nashville, San Francisco, etc. Unmentioned, of course, the hundreds of quaint little towns scattered across the map. What do they all have…

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How Overthinking a New Relationship Can Undermine Your Connection

The start of a fresh romance has its own unique learning curve. If you’re like most people, you may be tempted to analyze every little move. Yet, overthinking a new relationship can actually damage the authentic connection between you. Despite the intense and immediate connection that romance novels depict, usually that initial connection is fairly sensitive. In other words, it requires a bit of nurturing. Think of your new emotional…

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5 Easy Ways to Build Your Self-Confidence—Starting Now

Many things in life can impact your self-confidence. Think back to events in your childhood. Perhaps your parents divorced, you relocated to a new neighborhood or school, or you struggled with a physical illness or disability. In adulthood, you may have experienced a difficult relationship, dealt with a toxic work environment, or trudged through financial losses. Life has a way of twisting and turning in unexpected ways. Often, these experiences…

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Why Self-Care Is More Than a Day at the Spa

Despite the term “self-care” taking on a rather fluffy meaning nowadays, it’s far more empowering than most people believe. And self-care is more than a day at the spa. Yes, daily self-care goes far beyond sweating out stress in a sauna or taking a mud bath. Somewhere along the lines, self-care has gotten a luxurious connotation assigned to it. As if taking care of yourself was optional. It’s vital to…

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Attention, Stressed-Out People Pleasers—Read This and Relax!

As a people pleaser, you may deal with anxiety and stress by the truckloads. All the volunteering is likely burning you out. You probably don’t feel incredibly valued either. Perhaps you already know that people pleasing is rooted in low self-confidence. Essentially, as a people pleaser, you draw your self-worth from others. For this reason, the habit of people pleasing ends up hurting you big time. And stopping this habit…

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Are You Suffering from High-Functioning Anxiety? – 5 Tell-Tale Signs

Many people identify with the long list of common anxiety symptoms. From the racing thoughts to that notorious feeling of being on-edge, modern society has normalized these symptoms. But perhaps you’re not exactly the poster child for anxiety because you appear to have your life together. You’re organized, pay attention to detail, and can focus on several projects at once. Plus, you seem to have eight sets of arms with…

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Spring Renewal: 6 Ways to Prepare Yourself for Summer

No matter which part of the country you’re from, there’s a good chance that winter is old news to you. Thankfully, the change of seasons is well on the way and you, like most people, are likely ready for a spring renewal. Of course, it can be tough to transition smoothly from season to season. After all, the way you navigate life can differ vastly from one season to the…

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The Long, Dark Road of Depression – Will It Last Forever?

Have you been struggling with depression but can’t get anywhere? Are you worried that your depression will last forever with no hope in sight? For sufferers, the road of depression can certainly seem long and dark, without end. However, it is also important to know that there is hope at the end of the tunnel. First, take into consideration a few facts about depression. Same Depression, Different Experiences According to…

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