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Why creating a routine can be helpful during coronavirus

By Elena Covo, LMFT

The coronavirus outbreak is a global issue that is causing a lot of concerns for humans everywhere in the world. It is disrupting our lives, our economy, our finances, our social and family circles, as well as our physical and mental health. Our daily habits have changed, our life looks different, and everything happened so quickly, which is anxiety provoking. You might be working from home at this point, or…

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How vulnerability can help you enhance your relationship.

By Elena Covo, LMFT

Being vulnerable in a romantic relationship. Throughout my experience working in France and now in the United States, I have observed partners going from regularly fighting and talking about breaking up to being close to one another and having a strong and secure attachment bond. So, what has helped them go from a stage of defensiveness and verbal attacks to a more peaceful lifestyle? I have noticed that couples that…

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New Year, New You! – 3 Ways to Find Your Authentic Voice in 2019

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

To find your authentic voice, be an explorer. How so? Have you ever been to a new city and felt an undeniable vibe? Like the atmosphere was alive, breathing a certain feeling into your lungs. Some cities that come to mind are New Orleans, Chicago, New York, Philadelphia, Nashville, San Francisco, etc. Unmentioned, of course, the hundreds of quaint little towns scattered across the map. What do they all have…

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How Overthinking a New Relationship Can Undermine Your Connection

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

The start of a fresh romance has its own unique learning curve. If you’re like most people, you may be tempted to analyze every little move. Yet, overthinking a new relationship can actually damage the authentic connection between you. Despite the intense and immediate connection that romance novels depict, usually that initial connection is fairly sensitive. In other words, it requires a bit of nurturing. Think of your new emotional…

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5 Easy Ways to Build Your Self-Confidence—Starting Now

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

Many things in life can impact your self-confidence. Think back to events in your childhood. Perhaps your parents divorced, you relocated to a new neighborhood or school, or you struggled with a physical illness or disability. In adulthood, you may have experienced a difficult relationship, dealt with a toxic work environment, or trudged through financial losses. Life has a way of twisting and turning in unexpected ways. Often, these experiences…

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Why Self-Care Is More Than a Day at the Spa

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

Despite the term “self-care” taking on a rather fluffy meaning nowadays, it’s far more empowering than most people believe. And self-care is more than a day at the spa. Yes, daily self-care goes far beyond sweating out stress in a sauna or taking a mud bath. Somewhere along the lines, self-care has gotten a luxurious connotation assigned to it. As if taking care of yourself was optional. It’s vital to…

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Attention, Stressed-Out People Pleasers—Read This and Relax!

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

As a people pleaser, you may deal with anxiety and stress by the truckloads. All the volunteering is likely burning you out. You probably don’t feel incredibly valued either. Perhaps you already know that people pleasing is rooted in low self-confidence. Essentially, as a people pleaser, you draw your self-worth from others. For this reason, the habit of people pleasing ends up hurting you big time. And stopping this habit…

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Are You Suffering from High-Functioning Anxiety? – 5 Tell-Tale Signs

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

Many people identify with the long list of common anxiety symptoms. From the racing thoughts to that notorious feeling of being on-edge, modern society has normalized these symptoms. But perhaps you’re not exactly the poster child for anxiety because you appear to have your life together. You’re organized, pay attention to detail, and can focus on several projects at once. Plus, you seem to have eight sets of arms with…

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Spring Renewal: 6 Ways to Prepare Yourself for Summer

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

No matter which part of the country you’re from, there’s a good chance that winter is old news to you. Thankfully, the change of seasons is well on the way and you, like most people, are likely ready for a spring renewal. Of course, it can be tough to transition smoothly from season to season. After all, the way you navigate life can differ vastly from one season to the…

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The Long, Dark Road of Depression – Will It Last Forever?

By Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT

Have you been struggling with depression but can’t get anywhere? Are you worried that your depression will last forever with no hope in sight? For sufferers, the road of depression can certainly seem long and dark, without end. However, it is also important to know that there is hope at the end of the tunnel. First, take into consideration a few facts about depression. Same Depression, Different Experiences According to…

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Mindful Holidays

The holiday season can leave us feeling totally exhausted, run down, or even financially strapped. We can find ourselves tapped out, run down, and exhausted. It’s ironic that this time of year, the weather begs us to stay inside and quiet down, and yet we find ourselves constantly out and about. We trudge through the snow and cold, buying gifts, meeting friends, or attending holiday parties. It’s at this time…

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Embracing Gratitude

During this time of Thanksgiving and the beginning of the holidays, I always find it’s a good time to reflect on gratitude. Finding gratitude can lighten our hearts and remind us that we are very fortunate in many ways. Reminding ourselves what we are grateful for, often times reminds us that we are not alone, we are cared for, and usually loved more than we know. Embracing Gratitude In Your…

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Learning to Let Go in the Looking for Love

We have often heard the phrase, when we stop looking for love, it finally appears. Finding a mate can be a frustrating process that can leave us disappointed, angry and sad, wondering what the heck is wrong with us?! I have found through my work as a psychotherapist, that this inquiry can also bring a lot of deep healing to ourselves if we are willing to look within and discover…

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Allowing

In my psychotherapy practice, I encourage my clients to bring more awareness and mindfulness into their daily lives. We can so oftentimes feel rushed, scattered and onto the next thing, that we rarely enjoy what this moment has to offer. In being present, it allows us to calm down, lose some of the anxiety, and fully take in what is happening around us. Conversations start to be more fulfilling, our…

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Mindfulness in the Morning-5 Tips for getting your day started right!

–As you wake up, see if you can notice how you are doing before you automatically jump out of bed. Take inventory: How does your body feel? Do you feel rested? What is your intention for the day? Do all of this before your feet even hit the floor. –In the shower, notice if your mind starts planning and thinking about the next thing. Notice if you can bring your…

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Falling Into Letting Go

Sometimes we find ourselves tightly wound to our beliefs, remembering who hurt us, who we are angry with, and who disappointed us. We hold grudges, cling onto resentments, and feel tightly wound and bound to our opinions and perspectives. It’s as if the needle is stuck in a record groove. From this place, we often times feel trapped, small, and paralyzed by our own limitations. We try to control events…

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We’ll See…

“We’ll see” was often a phrase that we heard growing up that would send us away rolling our eyes and knowing that the answer was probably a no. As I have been working with my meditation practice, I notice this phrase has more value than I seemed to realize. Instead of grasping and attaching to the highs and lows of life, the yes and the no, perhaps we can hold…

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Longing…

Longing, defined as a strong, persistent desire or craving, especially for something unattainable or distant. Longing can show up in many forms: Longing to be somewhere else, to be with someone else, to be someone else or even perhaps to feel something else. Longing can remove us from the present moment, wishing we were somewhere else. Moments, days, or weeks can go by, and we realize that we are no…

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A Poem About Self-Discovery

Slide into the unknown The Beloved is waiting Climb down the rickety ladder Into the mysterious cave of your body Where your own quiet music plays Become great friends to yourself Tip your identity into the empty bowl of Being Hold only space where you used to fill it A cup already strained can hold you no more Escort people through to the Beloved Loving them, teaching them, learning from…

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